General Structure of Dating Men

The process of making friends to being his girlfriend varies with every individual. Generally, it consists of 3 stages:

1) Knowing Him
2) Courting Period
3) Establishing

Stage 1 - Knowing Him
"HE" refers to the man whom you have met somewhere (school, workplace, religious sites, acquaintance, etc.) , which interests you the most. His actions, behavior, sense of humor somehow caught your attention. He may not be the best looking man in the world, but his personality attracts you like crazy magnets.

As women, we tend to use our emotions and capture what is best of him. It is unexplainable, the feeling and urge for him is so strong that you believe he is the one.
If you have a thought for him, I bet ten other women have the same feeling for him.
That's right, the greatest weapon of a man is not his looks, but the charisma and confidence flowing out from him.

It is pretty hard to avoid competition between other girls, often leading to cat fights. Although we like how men fight over us, on the opposite, men dislike women who fight over them. It gives extremely poor impression to the guy you love, making him feel disgusted.

In stage one, your job is to know him better through communication. Understand his needs, desire, hobbies, friends, work and almost every other thing. This has to be done tactfully and not aggressively. Do not just ask questions directly, simply observe what he says to other people.

Sometimes, using simple body language is better than speaking out loud.
For example, instead of saying "Lets go out together for lunch, I know of a good restaurant nearby. The food is great and cheap too. I like the seafood platter very much... blah blah blah..", why not try using a gesture meaning "let's go"

It makes the guy feels curious, wanting to know what is in for him. Although it is just lunch, it creates a mystery for him, leaving him wild thoughts of what is going to happen next.

The last thing you would ever want to do is to blabber away. Men hates women who can't stop talking. The best topic to chat about is his interest. Most men have interests in soccer, video games, body building, cars, fishing, etc. Try to avoid talking about work or your personal complains, it damages your impression to him greatly.
It is very important to get the right topic, it will help a lot in building up the relationship tremendously before you really date him.

The key to stage one is to attract the guy, making him take interest in you. There are many ways to do it, which I will describe in details later, but submitting yourself entirely to him is certainly not a good idea. Men see such women as sluts (the other word is more awful).


Stage 2 - Courting Period
It is easy to tell when a guy is courting you. This is the stage whereby you have to play "hard-to-catch". The feeling of being wooed is fantastic, little thrills and events make you giggle slightly when you think about it before bed.

The average time span for stage 2 is about 2-6months, so do not drag this period for too long as men do give up once they lose their confidence. Occasionally, you got to give him little hints or gestures that you like him, just to boost his confidence.

When he confesses to you how much he loves you, do not give in too soon! Play around with him a little, let him wait, tell him how you feel about him only when you feel comfortable.

If you are courting a guy instead of him wooing you, it means that stage one is not being done properly. By wooing the guy, it makes you look very desperate and shameless. I may be wrong, but that is what many people will gossip about.


Stage 3 - Establishing
Alright, both of you are together now, the game will be much different from then on. We need to accept this fact that, men will never treat you the same as before as compared to stage one and two. Difference in opinions will spark quarrels and fights. Guys will spend more time doing what they like instead of paying attention in you.

Don't cry yet, it is not the end. Maintaining the relationship requires patience, maturity and love from both parties. There is no point in looking back past events, finding faults and comparing the present. Instead, look into the future for a better pasture, talk about more in-depth personal information with him.

I know it is immoral to have premarital sex, but most women secret to keep their men is through sex. ***As age, ethics, teachings are concerned, please abide the laws, rules and regulations***
Research has shown that, most couples that fall out or divorce, have poor sex relationship.

Should you need any help or advice, do not hesitate to send me an email at atanimx@hotmail.com